Surrendering More Ground

Jessica has told her mother. She is planning to go to stay in Anita's house (one of her friends) for two weeks while they are on holiday. Her mother thinks that the break from me will allow her to think about what she wants. My wants are pretty irrelevant as you can see! She is still in contact with James so I have the dilemma of whether to tell his wife. What do I gain? Petty revenge? Another fucked up life? What would you do? I simply don't know and, honestly, don't know what I will do. Jessica wants to be magically divorced, well separated. It is vindictive of me to tell Harriet, the b/f's wife, vindictive of me to divorce her for adultery, vindictive of me to think about custody. Why can't I be reasonable? Has she been reasonable in any of this? More impasses but at least we kept off the custody arguments tonight. I left her with an offer. We buy a new house with more bedrooms and live separate lives as far as relationships are concerned. She can fuck who she likes. She said she would think about it. Sometimes, I wonder how low I will stoop and where it will end!